Mon 31 January 2005 - Manners
I’m going to go waaaaay out on a limb here. Shoot me down in flames if you like.
I don’t think putting your elbows on the table is bad manners any more. I remember being told not to put my elbows on the table when I was a kid, but I think times have changed.
We’ve moved on. We can now put our elbows on the table in even the finest restaurants, and nobody will stare. The maitre d’ won’t have us ejected. It’s not rude anymore.
Spitting and picking your nose at the table? Yeah, that would still be rude.
January 31st, 2005 at 11:35pm
I have that book around here somewhere. It’s survived two children
February 1st, 2005 at 5:24am
In our house it was:
1. Sit up straight, elbows off the table
2. Don’t talk while chewing
3. Don’t chew with your mouth open
4. Put your lips smoothly over your spoon - don’t click it with your teeth (cereal)
February 1st, 2005 at 10:08am
All of the above. Actually, they the only ones I generally adhere too these days, though we tend to lean towards the elbows being allowed on the table but only when there’s no food.
February 1st, 2005 at 12:47pm
And there’s something about which side of the fork is appropriate for heaping food upon.
February 1st, 2005 at 1:31pm
too cute
February 1st, 2005 at 3:18pm
Spitting and picking your nose is OK. They are very mercenary these days. More interested in your 50 cents. But eating you nose pickings - now that’s something different. You are NOT allowed to eat brought in food in a restaurant under any circumstances!
February 1st, 2005 at 4:27pm
Josh: thanks for the reminder!
A few more:
1. Saw meat with your knife (rather than tearing it)
2. Don’t use fork to shovel food into your mouth
3. Bring food up to your mouth, rather than your mouth down to the food
Should I mention that the same person who taught me also licked her plate afterwards?
February 1st, 2005 at 10:21pm
All the above plus no singing, humming, tapping etc etc.
But that was in the days when food only came off the plate on knife and/or fork - elbows became OK at about the same time as tacos!
February 2nd, 2005 at 12:21am
this is not to be silly, but in the days when smoking was still allowed in restaurants, we used to go to some of the very cheap and fast (but tasty) vietnamese restaurants in Springvale. Every now and then you could observe a patron stubbing out their
cigarette on the plate. Memorably, once someone stuck
his butt into a half finished fried egg.
Might have made for a good photo, come to think of it…
February 2nd, 2005 at 1:55am
My husband had a corporate etiquette class a few years ago, and they were taught that elbows on the table is considered a warm and friendly thing to do while chatting before the food arrived, but once the food is there, elbows off.
February 4th, 2005 at 9:41am
It does not offend me to see elbows on the table as long as the person does not then lean on their hand. I’d much rather suffer an army of elbows on the table than watch people chew with their mouths open. I also find it more of an imposition to hear them speak loudly and take cellular calls while dining.
March 3rd, 2005 at 12:30pm
i dont no about everyone else but i find that leaving a small amount food on the plate is bad if dining out, because then the host/ess may think you do not like it. although, i have heard its better to leave some - i dont no why though..